Are we able to be friends with our ex's ? Are we able to contain the hurt that they've caused us by leaving & just be FRIENDS ? Its hard but apparently its achievable . But how do you be friends & not have feelings again for that person really .
It sounds like it takes a genius to figure it out .
No , don't say it takes a mature person to be able to do so because even the most mature person has difficulty getting through this type of thing . It takes time .
It took me almost a year to just be able to talk to my ex . I found it especially hard when it was my first ever real relationship . The others didn't count as they were merely childish flings that we assumed was love .
I see him every weekend as he is working at my favorite hang out place & its pretty hard to avoid talking to him , not that I'm avoiding him or anything . Things are pretty casual but there are restrictions I guess ?
Sometimes when we're alone its hard to differentiate between friends & boyfriend/girlfriend . The boundaries .
This may be shallow but sometimes the way we talk is as if we're not even friends but together again .
My emotional state is pretty stable & my feelings for him have faded ; that's what I think though .
I don't hate him but what if being around him in particular would be 'hazardous' ?
I don't want him to become a FOE . I want us to be normal friends but the thing is with all of the past right behind us , yelling in my mind , how do we become friends ? I do care as a friend should or maybe more but then love is probably out of the question .
Memories have never made me hate him but adore him because thanks to him , I'm a better person . So maybe being friends wouldn't be so bad .
Anyone else having difficulties ? Thoughts ? Cause I've been hungover for over a year now & I'm just ready to be okay again .
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